What was wrong with the OLD you?

January 6, 2010

Photo Courtesy of Optical Illusion on Flickr

Welcome 2010! The energy around the New Year is incredible. We are reenergized, inspired, feel more grounded and connected after seeing family and friends for the holidays. Ok, maybe we’re also a little tired, but we dream big and feel like we can finally shake off anything that held us back in the past year and truly take hold of the new.

We are reminded everywhere – even in my newsletter – that it’s time for a New Year, New You. But after reading and using this phrase over and over again I started thinking…what was wrong with the old you?

Why is it that we decide at the beginning of every year that we weren’t good enough in the past one? That somehow we didn’t live up to our own or others’ expectations of us? Why, after a season filled with excess and affirmation, do we respond with restriction and denial? Otherwise known as resolutions. No more junk food. No more TV. No more social life, trading it in for the gym.

But how long is it before we feel exhausted by the commitments that were supposed to make us better? And then how long before we default to our old habits and routines that made us want to be “new” in the first place…because it’s just “easier” or because we think “I’ll fail anyway”? And then there we are – back in the same self-sabotaging cycle for another year.

Big, all encompassing New Years resolutions might feel inspiring to proclaim, but they are most likely not realistic. I am not going to make resolutions this year to fix what went wrong, I am going to spend time reflecting on what went RIGHT in 2009. It was a tough year, but some amazing things happened that I don’t want to toss aside in a frenzy to correct my mistakes. I want to hold onto the good so I can repeat and build upon those moments in 2010. Maybe it’s not about being a whole new you. I don’t want to become someone different, I just want to continue to grow as the person I already am. Because darn it I think I’m pretty awesome– and so are you!

So if it’s not “New Year, New You”…how about “New Day, New Opportunity”? It’s not just every January that we are offered the chance to change, learn, and grow. It’s every single day if we choose to see it that way.

Instead of resolving what you’ll do this YEAR to achieve your goals, try thinking about what you might be able to do TODAY. Getting organized is a huge task. What if today you order a filing cabinet or buy some folders? Getting healthier is a goal to be admired, but what does that mean to you? What if today you choose a salad instead of fast food? Have a piece of fruit instead of candy? Deciding to hit the gym 5 days a week probably feels overwhelming. What if you just got a membership today?

I’m holding a free teleclass on January 19th to talk more about resolutions – why they don’t stick and how you CAN make them a reality. I will also be offering some coaching directly to the participants on the call. I’d love to have you join me to continue this conversation. Just click here for more information.

Small steps add up to BIG changes. When you break down larger tasks and goals into simpler steps, you can bring all you want for you life more within your reach. And isn’t it more fun to celebrate success than anticipate failure? I hope with this in mind, you’ll think about one step you can take today…not to become a new you, but to continue to become who you already are.

Until next time…Happy New DAY!


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